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Still not really sure how this thing works...but I want to try because I miss the LJ community. Please give me access if you're one of my pals from LJ...again, not really sure what I'm doing here, for some reason I find this very clumsy and confusing.


Feb. 11th, 2015 04:16 pm
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I wish I could determine what the fuck the smell coming from this patient is.

It's sort of like Leseur peas in the silver can only covered in fecal matter and wet dog.

He's a nice guy, but his teeth are rotted out and his clothes are dirty. His hair seems clean.

I can't get the stench out of my nose after he leaves. We all spray and burn incense after he's all done.

Yes, it's that bad.

I walked by a closed office and knew that this guy was inside. I refer to him as a meth head, but after talking more to him, I really don't think he is. I think he's just got something very disgusting going on.

Legit, I ate soon before he got here and I feel like I'm going to lose my lunch. How does he not recognize it???? And if he does, how does he not excuse it?? I hate cologne, but seriously dude...I'm gonna hurl.


Aug. 24th, 2011 07:02 am
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God I love this puppy so much, but I'd love him just a wee bit more if he'd let me sleep past 6:00 am.

That is all.


Aug. 4th, 2011 08:50 am
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Yeah, so I went over there...not thrilled. It seems so convoluted. I'm happy with LJ as long as it keeps working.


Aug. 3rd, 2011 02:44 pm
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Is this something I should know about/belong to???

Please advise. ;-)

Puppy love

Jul. 26th, 2011 08:42 am
lalicopa: (Tallulah)
There's been so much crap all around lately. I'm putting so much positive energy into this new puppy coming to join our family. We decided to name him Ragu.

He's coming home in 9 days. I feel like buying him stuff already...little blue blankets and boy dog stuff. I know it's silly, but I am really just so excited for this new fuzzy little life to join us.

There really is nothing like a puppy.

(the profile picture is of Tallulah when she was a puppy. I can't wait to see how excited she is when he gets here).


Jul. 19th, 2011 08:21 am
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When we see good people suffer it changes us.

Unfortunately, these changes are usually temporary.

We all hug our kids extra tight for a few days. We hold the door for an extra person. We let the person with fewer items ahead of us at the supermarket. And then we go back to being rushed, losing patience and sweating the small stuff.

My tribute to Brendan is to make those positive changes last longer, because this kind of lasting longer is within my control and it just makes sense to me. I'm changing forever because of this. There is no fairness. There is no explanation for what is happening. And each day is a true gift to all of us.

I'm never going to take that for granted again.
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A Fate That Narcissists Will Hate: Being Ignored

Narcissists, much to the surprise of many experts, are in the process of becoming an endangered species.

Not that they face imminent extinction — it’s a fate much worse than that. They will still be around, but they will be ignored.

The fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (due out in 2013, and known as DSM-5) has eliminated five of the 10 personality disorders that are listed in the current edition.

Narcissistic personality disorder is the most well-known of the five, and its absence has caused the most stir in professional circles.

Most nonprofessionals have a pretty good sense of what narcissism means, but the formal definition is more precise than the dictionary meaning of the term.

Our everyday picture of a narcissist is that of someone who is very self-involved — the conversation is always about them. While this characterization does apply to people with narcissistic personality disorder, it is too broad. There are many people who are completely self-absorbed who would not qualify for a diagnosis of N.P.D.

The central requirement for N.P.D. is a special kind of self-absorption: a grandiose sense of self, a serious miscalculation of one’s abilities and potential that is often accompanied by fantasies of greatness. It is the difference between two high school baseball players of moderate ability: one is absolutely convinced he’ll be a major-league player, the other is hoping for a college scholarship.

Of course, it would be premature to call the major-league hopeful a narcissist at such an early age, but imagine that same kind of unstoppable, unrealistic attitude 10 or 20 years later.

The second requirement for N.P.D.: since the narcissist is so convinced of his high station (most are men), he automatically expects that others will recognize his superior qualities and will tell him so. This is often referred to as “mirroring.” It’s not enough that he knows he’s great. Others must confirm it as well, and they must do so in the spirit of “vote early, and vote often.”

Finally, the narcissist, who longs for the approval and admiration of others, is often clueless about how things look from someone else’s perspective. Narcissists are very sensitive to being overlooked or slighted in the smallest fashion, but they often fail to recognize when they are doing it to others.

Most of us would agree that this is an easily recognizable profile, and it is a puzzle why the manual’s committee on personality disorders has decided to throw N.P.D. off the bus. Many experts in the field are not happy about it.

Actually, they aren’t happy about the elimination of the other four disorders either, and they’re not shy about saying so.

One of the sharpest critics of the DSM committee on personality disorders is a Harvard psychiatrist, Dr. John Gunderson, an old lion in the field of personality disorders and the person who led the personality disorders committee for the current manual.

Asked what he thought about the elimination of narcissistic personality disorder, he said it showed how “unenlightened” the personality disorders committee is.

“They have little appreciation for the damage they could be doing.” He said the diagnosis is important in terms of organizing and planning treatment.

“It’s draconian,” he said of the decision, “and the first of its kind, I think, that half of a group of disorders are eliminated by committee.”

He also blamed a so-called dimensional approach, which is a method of diagnosing personality disorders that is new to the DSM. It consists of making an overall, general diagnosis of personality disorder for a given patient, and then selecting particular traits from a long list in order to best describe that specific patient.

This is in contrast to the prototype approach that has been used for the past 30 years: the narcissistic syndrome is defined by a cluster of related traits, and the clinician matches patients to that profile.

The dimensional approach has the appeal of ordering à la carte — you get what you want, no more and no less. But it is precisely because of this narrow focus that it has never gained much traction with clinicians.

It is one thing to call someone a neat and careful dresser. It is another to call that person a dandy, or a clotheshorse, or a boulevardier. Each of these terms has slightly different meanings and conjures up a type.

And clinicians like types. The idea of replacing the prototypic diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder with a dimensional diagnosis like “personality disorder with narcissistic and manipulative traits” just doesn’t cut it.

Jonathan Shedler, a psychologist at the University of Colorado Medical School, said: “Clinicians are accustomed to thinking in terms of syndromes, not deconstructed trait ratings. Researchers think in terms of variables, and there’s just a huge schism.” He said the committee was stacked “with a lot of academic researchers who really don’t do a lot of clinical work. We’re seeing yet another manifestation of what’s called in psychology the science-practice schism.”

Schism is probably not an overstatement. For 30 years the DSM has been the undisputed standard that clinicians consult when diagnosing mental disorders. When a new diagnosis is introduced, or an established diagnosis is substantially modified or deleted, it is not a small deal. As Dr. Gunderson said, it will affect the way professionals think about and treat patients.

Given the stakes, the blow-back from experts in personality disorders should come as no surprise.

Dr. Gunderson has written a letter co-signed by other clinical and research leaders to the trustees of the American Psychiatric Association and the task force that governs DSM-5. And Dr. Shedler and seven colleagues published an editorial in the September issue of The American Journal of Psychiatry. In the relatively small world of mental health diagnostics, this is most certainly a battle worth watching.

Right now, this much seems clear: It is way too early for the narcissists to give up their seat on the bus.
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I had Channels and Points class tonight. I adore my instructor, she's one of the top ten smartest people I've ever met. We were covering the gall bladder channel, and we usually touch the points on ourselves when she gives the first brief overview of the pathways. There is a point behind the ear lobe on the skull in that little indent in the bone. I pressed there and it automatically felt sensitive and it hurt. Theoretically, if a point you put pressure on is sensitive, it means it needs treatment or the channel it's on needs treatment. I rubbed it gently for a few minutes. The main action of this point is to relieve earache pain and help release ear infections.

Five minutes later, my mouth started filling up with saliva. I'm normally very dry in the mouth, to the point that sometimes I can't eat non-moist foods. But after I "treated" that spot, my mouth was flowing with saliva. I interrupted the lesson to tell my professor what was happening. She said, "Oh yeah, well that point is also used to stimulate the parotid gland, and since it was painful when you touched it, you had a blockage in your gland that was preventing proper saliva production." Just like that. She said, "You treated yourself, congratulations." I swear, I keep learning awesome stuff like this. It's truly amazing. I can't wait to learn more and to be able to start treating people - which won't be for at least another two years, but I'm patient so far.

Also, very often this crazy chick in my class claims she feels sensations when she touches points and the professor's always like, "Well, there's no explanation for why you would feel that." Ha.


Feb. 23rd, 2010 05:31 pm
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I really have no point for making this entry, other than that I want to type something more than my user ID and password somewhere on my brand spanking new computer. My crappy Acer died and I talked Robert into letting me order a super funky purple Dell laptop. I asked my friend which specs I should upgrade, and now it's here and I'm so very excited! I didn't get to pick out my last two laptops, so this is like, very cool.

It may be a little clunky to bring to school, but I'm gonna do it at least in two of my three classes. I have been taking so many notes that I leave with cramps in my hand, so this way I can at least type it all out. I'm still a very paper-oriented learner, but maybe this will help me move over to the digital age. I guess it's because I haven't been a "student" since I've become computer literate. Like, I still make flash cards on index cards for every test. My friend Joe refuses any paper for any of his classes because he has no use for it. I hope to get to that point eventually, but for now at least I can enter my notes digitally.

Ok, that's all. I'm happy with how my fingers hit the keys. Yay.

RIP Kibbles

Feb. 1st, 2010 06:07 pm
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Kibbles was diagnosed several months ago with congestive heart failure. I was giving her medicine daily to help her out, but she was on a downward path for a while.

The last few days she's been struggling to breath more than usual. Last night she woke up to pee, which she never does, and I had the urge to pet her a little before I passed back out.

I'm glad I did.

This morning I came downstairs with Laszlo and saw Kibbles, lifeless, in her crate. Tallulah was agitated, she probably didn't know what to make of it.

I put the crate and the dog in the garage so the kids wouldn't see her. Then I got them all off to school. I was going to tell them when they got home, but I decided (per the suggestion of a psychologist friend) to wait until Robert gets home and tell them together. They haven't noticed, and I told Lily this morning that Kibbles was sick and at the vet. Kibbles has been old since the kids were old enough to care about her, so they haven't even noticed that she's not here.

I feel sad. She was a great dog. So cute. I've always been a two-dog kinda gal. But I'm not getting another one, at least for a while. I'm just not home enough to raise a puppy.

So that's it. I'm gonna tell the kids that her spirit is with her sister Alabama and they are playing together somewhere and so happy to be together again.
lalicopa: (laszlo's smarter than you)
A few weeks ago I heard Laszlo talking to Lily. She accidentally said, "Back when I was a little boy..." Laszlo said, "Lily, you used to be a little boy? What happened, you had gender assignment surgery?"

I jumped in. I asked what he was talking about. He said, "Mommy, you told me that people can change their gender by gender assignment surgery."

I had no recollection of that conversation, but I DO tell them stuff like that if the subject comes up. I told him it was gender REassignment surgery. But like, months ago. And he remembered it. The kid's brain is such a vault, and he uses everything appropriately, even if it's just been filed away for ages.

I went to Laszlo's "Writers' Celebration" in his class. One of the boys was having some difficulty reading and Laszlo said, "Frankie needs to practice his fluency." I almost choked on my corn muffin.

Ella will be three in a month. She is so gorgeous and funny that she takes my breath away. She is obsessed with Yo Gabba Gabba. She has the small figurines of the characters and she sits quietly for hours making them talk to each other and sing the songs from the show. She adds other toys to the mix. I have to videotape her because it's so precious and funny.

Robert bought her a Barbie doll the other day and she keeps calling it "Barley." So now I ask her to say the doll's name and she says, "Barley is a dinosaur, magic magic-ation."

She's also started calling me Momma instead of Mommy. All the kids did this for some reason and I just love it every time. The other two went back to Mommy after a while...I'm hoping Ella sticks with the Momma.

Lily is still all that's sweet and good in the world, but she has been feeling her oats a little and being a bit annoying. She's been deliberately irritating Laszlo and Ella and even me sometimes, just to get a reaction. I guess being good becomes boring after a while - not that I'd know. ;-)
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Lily: "Ew what's that smell?"
Me: "I don't know, what does it smell like?"
Lily: "It smells worser than a fart even you know I just farted."

Ahhh that's my girl.

Laszlo said this morning, "Hey Mommy, I 'upgraded' to second grade. Get it?"


Sep. 11th, 2009 04:13 pm
lalicopa: (laszlo's smarter than you)
This morning Laszlo was rushing to do his homework. He had to think of five ways we use numbers every day. Lily was coming up with a few and he was frustrated that he couldn't.

Laszlo: I can't believe Lily is smarter than me.
Lily: Don't say that! You teach me all the smart stuff.


Sep. 1st, 2009 06:43 pm
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Favorite cool, classic love songs?
lalicopa: (laszlo's smarter than you)
We were watching TV last night and there was a commercial for some exercise equipment. They were showing very heavy people and then their amazing bodies as a result of using the machine.

Laszlo said, "This commercial is exaggerating and saying it's better than it is so we overestimate it and they make more money."

Yeah, he's 7.


Jul. 18th, 2009 09:26 am
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Just in case any of y'all haven't meandered by my facebook recently, I highly recommend you do, because there are some amazing shots of my kids that we had done by a photographer last week. I'm not thrilled with her obvious use of photoshop in some of these, but I'm glad I am probably the only person who sees the hard copy that would notice. :-)
lalicopa: (laszlo's smarter than you)
Laszlo just explained to me that when you feel sad you get creases on your heart. When you feel sad your heart crumples up and when you feel happy it uncrumples, but there are still creases left. He said the creases on your heart are like the history of being sad.
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Lily (to Laszlo): A lot of people say they have the best brother in the whole world. But you really are the best brother in the whole world.


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